In this episode, Kate unpacks what it’s like to navigate shared friendships after a high-conflict split - and offers guidance for the friends caught in the middle.
In this episode, Kate unpacks what it’s like to navigate shared friendships after a high-conflict split - and offers guidance for the friends caught in the middle.
About the episode:
Kate begins by exploring how high-conflict separations can disrupt friendships and social circles, often leaving ex-partners feeling sidelined or isolated. She then shares practical guidance for separated couples - from setting clear boundaries to allowing space to grieve the loss of old friendship dynamics. The episode wraps up with advice for friends who want to support both sides, including why it’s important to avoid acting as a go-between and how to check in privately in a way that feels safe and supportive.
How to help a friend through a high-conflict separation
If someone in your friend group is going through a separation, small gestures of care can make a big difference - especially if there is a lot of tension between them. Here are some simple ways to support both people:
You can find out more from our guide to helping a friend or family member through separation.
More resources:
The studies mentioned in this episode are Amato (2000), Afifi et al. (2015) and Symoens et al. (2013).
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