Marital intimacy with sex and relationship therapist, Ian Kerner

In this episode, Kate is joined by sex and relationship therapist, Ian Kerner, to discuss marital intimacy.

Released: 9 August 2023
Updated: 8 January 2026
37 MIN
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Life after divorce

In this episode, Kate is joined by sex and relationship therapist, Ian Kerner, to discuss marital intimacy.

About the episode:

Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children

Kate and Ian kick the episode off by discussing common problems which long-term couples tend to struggle with when it comes to sex. Later, they delve into various topics including intimacy issues, loss of attraction and practical tips to help relight that flame and get your physical relationship back on track.

About our guests:

Ian Kerner (PhD, LMFT) is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The New York Times, The Economist and NPR amongst others. Ian contributes regularly on the topic of relationships for CNN. He lectures frequently, with recent presentations for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, the Ackerman Institute, Tony Robbins, Goop, and TED 2021. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has been translated into more than a dozen languages, as well as the recently published So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (Grand Central). In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA).

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