
Divorcing dads: why separation hits men hard - and how to help
Divorce can hit men hard – and many dads withdraw just when they need people most. For divorcing dads, that isolation isn't only painful – it can be dangerous.
This week, Kate is joined by James Hayhurst, founder of The Parents Promise, to discuss a new school initiative designed to help children cope with the impact of family separation.
This week, Kate is joined by James Hayhurst, founder of The Parents Promise, to discuss a new school initiative designed to help children cope with the impact of family separation.
James introduces The Parents Promise and its mission before he and Kate explore the statistics behind this education initiative. They discuss how parental conflict during separation can affect children’s wellbeing and performance at school. James also shares his Five to Thrive steps that schools, teachers and parents can take to make a real difference.
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James Hayhurst is the founder of the Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of The Parents Promise. Having seen up close the multitude of issues in the family courts and the numbers of children and parents affected, James wanted to begin a new conversation about separation. In May 2021, after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations, the Parents Promise was launched.
You can learn more about James and his work on The Parents Promise website and you can connect with him on LinkedIn. You can learn more about the Education Initiative here and you can listen to our episode about the HR Initiative here.
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