In brief: The hidden cost of delaying divorce

You know your marriage is over. But you're still waiting – for the right moment, more certainty, or permission you're not sure will ever come. This episode is for anyone who's been circling the same question and is ready to stop waiting and start moving forward.

Kate is joined by Farhana Hussain, the UK's first divorce doula and author of She's Not Done Yet, to explore what keeps people stuck in the space between knowing their marriage is over and actually applying for divorce – and how moving forward is about choosing to become the author of your own life.

We talk about:

• Farhana’s own separation story and what led her to write She’s Not Done Yet
• Why people wait – even when they know what they want
• Why even amicable divorces can lead to being stuck
• The emotional and practical cost of delay
• Decision fatigue and why divorce is never just one decision
• How to stop waiting for permission and start authoring your own life

This episode is for anyone who feels like their life is on hold - and is ready to stop waiting and start moving forward.

Meet the Divorce Doula

Farhana Hussain is the UK’s first Divorce Doula, founder of the award-winning business My Divorce Doula™, and author of She’s Not Done Yet: A Divorce Doula’s Manifesto for Women Who Refuse to Stay Stuck. Farhana helps people move from circling the same question to making a clear decision they can stand behind, so they enter the divorce process grounded, prepared and able to engage constructively.

You can get in touch with Farhana through her website and you can buy her book on Amazon today.

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Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating the early stages of separation, including deciding whether your relationship is over and having the separation conversation in a way that reduces shock and defensiveness. Find it on Amazon today.

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